A letter to you...
My Dearest Little Ball of Sports Mom Sunshine,
Whether you've been #RockingTheSideline for years or you're a total Sports Mom/Team Mom newbie, as your new Sideline Hacking Ninja Bestie, I am totally obsessed with providing you with support, encouragement and guidance in your super awesome, ultra important role.
Plain and simple, I want to see you succeed with confidence, NOT STRESS!
With that being said, there's also a few things you should know...
#1 - You absolutely positively deserve to have a fantastic resource to help you do ALL that you do to build up + support your sideline (both on + off the field)
#2 - I believe whole-heartily in building + facilitating our ridiculously awesome community created specifically for Team Moms to encourage, support and teach each other... through shared experiences, and thick/thin sidelines :)
#3 - There is no shame on my part when it comes to running down the sideline alongside my boys, soaking up the little moments that create lasting memories and celebrating those who feel the same way (i.e. You!)
I thank you from the bottom of my heart for all that you do to support your child + their sideline. Your hard work and dedication day in and night out drives our world, and if nobody else said it, know that you are truly appreciated!
P.S. If you want to read more about me, and how I got started #HackingTheSideline, my story is just below. Warning: it's pretty beefy! :)
When my oldest son was just five years old we started him in organized sports.
My husband and I both actively participated in sports practically our whole lives so we were super excited to get him started on his first team.
Football was and always has been our 1st love, but we put him in anything and everything we could!
Being a sports mom wasn't so bad for the first few years.
A couple of practices here and there; games on Saturday mornings and a banquet at the end of the season.
They were too young to have tournaments and it was a local recreation league so all the games were at the same place. It was easy as pie taking him to practice, keeping track of what little gear he had, making him snacks and keeping him hydrated.
It didn't require a lot to have him participate and he really loved it!
Fast forward a few years and our oldest was now in his 1st season of travel league tackle football.
We also have a spunky little three-year old who thinks he’s the teams’ mascot.
Things have gone from 0 to 100 very quickly.
I found myself struggling with not only the HOW of planning everything (like dinner, school work, volunteering, errands, and house work) around our sports schedule:
- Practice at least 3 times a week
- Game very Saturday
- Pre-season workouts
- Mid-season tournaments (out-of-state, no less)
But also, the gear, uniforms, forms, and safety equipment everywhere. Not to mention figuring out how to get everything else (the diaper bag, my purse, and the stroller), from point A to point B. And this was just football season!
Maybe you can relate?
The overwhelm was REAL. Like REALLY REAL.
By this time, 8 years have zoomed passed and it's been season after season of hustling the boys around to practices and games, pacing the sidelines in every role possible, and losing my voice almost every weekend in the process!
On top of that, I was nominated to be Team Mom the season after our team formed it's own league and I joined the executive board!
I was trying to juggle work, home, and sideline life...
And while I knew a good amount about managing a sports organization, the student in me was looking for resources and support to help guide me through step-by-step of the everyday stuff!
I quickly found myself frequently wondering selfishly negative thoughts like…
“How much longer am I going to have to do this?”
“Other moms whose kids don’t like sports must have it so easy.”
“ Nobody understands how stressful this is for me, not even my husband.”
Raise your hand if you have ever found yourself thinking thoughts like these… (Dont wory, you can raise your hand... nobody can see you!)
Those ridiculous thoughts were keeping me from really, truly enjoying the precious moments I was taking for granted every day.
Not to mention the fact that they were distracting me from what I really needed to be focusing on.
And then one day it hit me... I was overwhelmed; but that wasn't even the worst of it...
We almost lost a very close Team Mom friend of ours. She suffered a massive stroke at the hands of stress.
Seeing her and her family in that very real situation was heart-breaking; and it helped me learn a very valuable sideline-life-changing lesson; enough was enough.
I was tired of making stupid excuses and having even more stupidly selfish thoughts.
It was in that moment that I was able to shift my mindset!
Now my thoughts sound like…
"I wouldn't change this for the world!"
"Nobody ever said I had to go at this alone."
"I know I can do this, and not lose my sanity!"
And most importantly...
"TAOYO!" (They. Are. Only. Young. Once.)
I realized... (and I know you can relate to this on the most sincere level)...
The whole reason we do what we do it for our kids.
And I know you know that time flies by way too fast to complain!
So once I shifted my mindset, and set my selfishness aside, I started implementing systems that I needed to organize my sideline-life, plan efficiently, build a system of support to fall back on during the tough times, and ROCK THE MESS outta my role!
If you didn't know... having the right mindset is the true foundation for all things successful.
(I know that might sound corny, and a bit like Yoda, but it’s true!)
I’m telling you this because I know what you are going through, and I know it can and will get better despite the struggle, despite what anybody else says, and no matter how many active kids you have!
I also know that if you continue down this dangerous spiral of overwhelm and stress, it can take a serious toll on your health; and we only want what's best for you!
Turns out, implementing those systems helped me learn by trial and error, and turned into a solution to my problems. It also put the cogs in motion to help other Team Moms, like me, learn how to manage.
My passion began to grow again...
Then, I did what I always do when I get passionate about something - I researched.
I looked all over, and quickly found out, that there really wasn't a lot of information out there that spoke directly to "How-To" when it comes to the role of a Youth Sports Team Mom and family/work/sports life balance.
Sure, there were some basic blog posts here or there about gear, or duties; but nothing that went into detail about the in's and out's of the sideline; what to expect; or even how to perform tasks in the most efficient way.
As a result, I used my years of experience on the sideline, tied in my educational background (MBA in Project Management + BA in Organizational Administration) + decided to create a resource; a one stop shop that would provide that info in a quick + actionable way.
But that wasn't enough...
Over the years, one of the ABSOLUTE BEST things that stood out about being on the sideline is the cohesive bond and resulting community that is created when a team is formed. It's another family, and it's one of my most favorite parts about being involved in sports.
There's nothing like cheering for your child and their team, while making besties with the other moms on your sideline!
The sense of pride, excitement, and sheer happiness to support your babies while they do something they love is the best. Combine that with the will to help and support others; I felt the desire to share and help create that feeling for others.
So, Sideline Society was created... AND THE TEAM MOM MOVEMENT HAS BEGUN!
I'm so happy you found us! And I'm super pumped to start on this journey with you, and to help you LOVE being a Team Mom!
Whether it's through a printable, group prompt, course, weekly chatter, or blog post, I hope you'll find value in our resource + community!
Keep hacking that sideline,